t Double Yellow's Musings: Singaporean Lolitas – Only Parents to Blame?
The warped mind of Double Yellow craves for humor everyday. His daily dose comes from The Straits Times, The Sunday Times, Today, Channelnewsasia, etc. He also thinks that because of this preamble, this blog will never get featured in the local media. And of course, please read the Disclaimer before embarking on the journey.

Sunday, October 23, 2005

Singaporean Lolitas – Only Parents to Blame?

Other than terrorism, aids, dengue, birdflu, tsunami, hurricane and racist bloggers, Singaporeans have something new to worry about. Introducing, Singapore’s Lolitas!! (The Sunday Times, 23 Oct 2005). According the ‘informed’ article, Singaporean schoolgirls (usually underage) are offering sex in return for money.

The consensus, according to the article, is that parents and consumerism are the main cause for underage lolitas in Singapore. Of course, our world-class super-duper highest ranking education system where these kids spent a lot of their time ‘learning’ has nothing to do with it. Our schools only equip our kids with skills to get them jobs. Sex education is the job of parents and parents alone.

Oh and the media is just an ‘objective’ reporter in all of this. Consumerism of course, is something built into capitalist society. So if our media shows skimpy models wearing next-to-nothing in the newspapers and on TV, they are just informing the public. When they run advertisements on slimming bust enhancement that go great lengths to commoditize women, they are just earning revenue. And if the media gets a flurry of letters to their forum page for the next week because of this article, it is just an unintended consequence.

Schoolgirls offering sex for money is a problem. But I’m not sure if one can just blame parents outright. I am not sure if this is just a case where parents concentrate a lot of their careers and ignore the activities of their kid. In fact, I will not be surprised if many of these girls are raised by single parents or come from broken homes. When parents are struggling to provide for two-square meals a day, the kid is then usually raised by society in general and the school in particular.

A more in-depth study is probably needed before a conclusive answer. To blame the parents up front is at best, simplistic.


Blogger Pandora said...

First of all - you must have woke up very eary to be able to post your stuff about this Sunday Plus article at 9AM!

I really think Parents have a big role to play, you know. Why do some kids turn out this way, others don't? All of them would be subjected to the same media influence & our kind of education system. What makes a difference despite all these, is the parenting. At least, it may not directly be the cause but certainly a critical factor!

Good parenting will help boost the young fledgings' self esteem and sense of self worth. Then they will not be so easily influenced by what they see and hear from their friends & media - & feel less need to feel special by wearing the expense brands. Kids are all impressionable by nature & just need that little extra bit of assurance from someone they look up to- we have all been through that stage, haven't we?

I think the purpose of this article could also be to jolt some parents out of their self-indulged world - to start spending more quality time & paying more attention to their kids!

9:16 PM  
Blogger doubleyellow said...

hey pandora, i didn't sleep all of sat night, thats why can read Sunday Times so early in the morning :)

You do hv a point and I agree with you that parents do have a big role to play in bringing up their children. And the purpose of the article may have also been to jolt Singaprean parents out of their comfort zones and make sure they keep an eye on the websites that their chewren are surfing :)

But my point is just that the so-called lolitas may actually come from broken homes or raised by single parents. In these cases, I think the pressure on the parents is enormous in bringing up the kid. They surely do not have the luxury of a spouse and a maid in tow to keep an eye on the kid. In these cases, it is the school who needs to take a more direct role in bringing up the kid. When the hands of the single or divorced parents are tied, it may not be right to expect them to 'deliver' like a complete family.

2:59 AM  

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